Psychology folk: Does this theory sound about right to you?

I'm not a psychologist by any means. But I recognize a certain trait here, one that I too wrestled with for many of my younger years, having lived through a similar very complex family relationship where things were constantly changing for the needs of the participants involved in my life. Actually I worked this out in my mind many times and finally realized that it wasn't in them to change but in me where the need was to liberate myself from a constant cycle of transactional complexities where power jostling amongst family members was non-ending and to this day, 50 years later is still going on amongst those same family members.